Over-responsibility
Sorting what's yours from what isn't. Learning to care about someone without carrying them.
Coaching · Virtual · Faith-Integrated
Coaching for thoughtful, high-functioning people who yearn to set boundaries, trust themselves, and stay close to the people they love without disappearing in the process.
Marcella is a certified coach, not a licensed therapist. Coaching is not therapy, counseling, or mental health treatment. She does not diagnose or treat mental health conditions, does not provide crisis care, and does not bill insurance.
Clients have come to me from teams at
Your guilt and resentment. Their disappointment. It feels like too much to handle. You don't know where to start.
You know what everyone else needs. Getting what you need feels more difficult.
You want to set a boundary, but what might happen afterward stops you.
You over-explain to manage other people's feelings.
From the outside, it looks like you're doing amazing. On the inside, it feels like you're barely getting by.
You bounce between guilt, annoyance, and resentment.
You are exhausted by over-functioning for the people in your life. You even feel their feelings.
Something's changing — a marriage, a role, a family, your faith — and you want to think it through and act from your own values, nobody else's.
You've read the books. You want language and practice, not another framework.
None of this means something is wrong with you. It usually means a strategy that once kept you safe is now costing more than it returns.
Sorting what's yours from what isn't. Learning to care about someone without carrying them.
Learning to tolerate guilt, disappointment, and someone else's reaction without caving or going cold.
Staying connected to people without managing their emotions for them. Everyone in your life: partner, parents, adult siblings, in-laws.
Rebuilding your pace for sustainability and self-worth that isn't dependent on external validation.
Trusting yourself to elicit the most appropriate part of yourself at the most appropriate time.
Getting clear on what you actually think, believe and value, without being rushed toward an answer.
My approach integrates family systems thinking, attachment, cognitive and values-based tools, and body awareness.
I am a Catholic. For some of my clients, faith is central to how they make decisions. If you want your faith in the room, we welcome it to help us tell conviction from guilt, sacrificial love from self-abandonment, and discernment from avoidance.
Important to note: I will never tell you what God wants for you, hand you a verse instead of helping you process what you're going through, or use faith to talk you into situations that harm you.
For many of my clients, faith isn't part of their life. That is welcome, too.
About
No. I'm an ICF Professional Certified Coach with a master's degree in counseling psychology. I am not a licensed therapist, counselor, psychologist, or medical provider in any US state.
I don't diagnose, treat mental health conditions, provide crisis care, or bill insurance.
I keep the practice small so the work stays deep. My calendar is typically booked 2–3 weeks out, if not longer. When you email me, I'll let you know when we might be able to meet.
Upon request, yes. Faith is central for some of my clients and never mentioned by others.
Yes. Everything is on Zoom. All we need to do is coordinate our time zones.
I keep a small practice, and my calendar is full at least 2–3 weeks out, but I read every email that comes through my inbox. Let me know what you would like to be different in your life.
Email me